Why do women stop wanting sex?
Nearly HALF of all women will suffer from lost libido, with devastating consequences, but only now are the reasons are emerging With her stunning looks and voluptuous figure, Nicky Allen is used to turning men’s heads. And with three marriages behind her, it’s hardly surprising that people assume she must be sexually confident.
As 57-year-old Nicky herself puts it: ‘The girls at the golf club thought having three husbands was really racy.’ The truth, however, was altogether different. Because far from having a thrilling love life, Nicky, a fashion retailer from Wineham, West Sussex, is one of an increasing number of women who find themselves blighted by a total lack of libido.
What the ladies in the clubhouse didn’t know is that the reason Nicky’s third marriage collapsed three years ago was that in the decade before, the number of physical encounters with her husband could be counted on the fingers of two hands.
So while she might have appeared to have it all – a comfortable home, a good marriage and a successful business – inside, Nicky, who has two grown-up children, just felt sad and miserable. And she admits the decline in her sex drive that followed the birth of her second child 29 years ago was a factor in the breakdown of all three of her marriages.
‘I just became less and less interested in sex,’ she says. ‘Eventually, it wasn’t on the agenda at all. Not that I wasn’t interested in the idea – but it just didn’t do anything for me. My answer was to throw myself wholeheartedly into my business and everything else, so I wouldn’t think about the problem.’
In an age when films and TV dramas would have us believe every woman is enslaved by an almost insatiable libido, there is growing evidence that this picture couldn’t be further from the truth.